Boundary Myths - Let’s Bust Them!
Boundaries are crucial for pleasure filled sex and relationships. The more we know our boundaries and can communicate them the more confident we can be to advocate ourselves and our needs in our relationships. Thus, leading to more confidence, more pleasure, and more intimacy.
Boundaries are POWERFUL! With power comes mythology to try and keep us small, so as we get intimate with our boundaries let’s take a minute and bust some of the biggest myths.
Boundary myth 1: Boundaries are fixed.
This is so untrue! But it is something I hear a lot. I want to banish this idea from your mind. Just because you have a boundary with one human being does not mean you’ll have it with every. Boundaries can change based on person, situation, time of day, or just because we want!
This is why a connection to your body and feeling your boundaries is so powerful. Our bodies can give us an indication of what feels good (or NOT) before we know.
Boundaries are to increase your experience of pleasure, use them to suit YOU.
Boundary myth 2: We owe others an explanation for our boundaries.
No is 100% a complete sentence if you want it to be. You do not owe anyone an explanation for why you don’t want to engage in something intimately or sexually.
Know you are entitled to confidently give a dead set NO because it’s right for you.
Boundary myth 3: Boundaries are selfish.
Setting boundaries is one of the most loving things we can do in a relationship. It helps our partners know how to be intimate with us. It’s also the way that we limit resentment in relationships and increase our pleasure and energy so we can be better partners!
Where we can come up against challenges is how we share boundaries. It’s all about practicing the art of nonviolent communication. There are ways that we can share boundaries in a loving way that keeps us in deep delicious connection with our partners.
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