What motivates me…

I didn’t receive a great sex education when growing up. At school I distinctly remember being told that I would need to use tampons in my ass if I ever had anal sex… AND I believed them. I remember first learning about the clitoris at 16 by watching South Park and having no clue what it even was.

I also experienced sexual trauma as a young teenager which I kept secret for over a decade. I was never taught about consent or even that I could have a voice to say no. I developed unhealthy coping mechanisms, never setting my own boundaries with others, leading to violation without awareness.

I was taught to limit my sexual expression to keep myself safe, never knowing that with support I could be a whole, healthy, erotic individual in my own right. This deeply impacted me…

I felt lost and unable to connect to myself.

I felt disconnected from my partner.

I felt disconnected from the world.

I didn’t know what my own sexual desires were.

I didn’t know I could have boundaries, let alone how to communicate them.

I didn’t know that being authentic and vulnerable with others and accepting my sexual, empowered, pleasure-driven self would change my life.

Many of us experience our own unique and complex challenges around sex, love and relationships, whether this stems from sub-standard education, trauma, our desires being shamed unintentionally (or intentionally), having our boundaries crossed by friends, family members, partners and strangers or other things entirely.

Therapy and coaching helped me integrate my trauma, shame and triggers, and taught me how to experience authentic, empowered pleasure.

This motivated me to create a space to facilitate open, vulnerable conversations in which I can provide expert support in all things sex, love and relationships. With my deep knowledge of human psychology and neuroscience, my extensive experience in facilitating positive behaviour change in others in the corporate world, and my trainings in somatic and embodied sex, love and relationship coaching, I have a unique set of knowledge, experience and skills that are helping others in their own transformation, liberating their sexual expression to bring deeper connection and greater pleasure.